I have a four year old nephew that has developed this habit of walking on his tippy toes, especially when he is running. It’s a habit that his mom has yet to be able to break. At this point in his young life, He is simply just used to it. He gets redirected, yet retreats right back to that old, subconscious, comfortable habit of walking on his tip toes.
Sometimes we subconsciously develop habits that don’t always benefit us in the long wrong. Someone believes we have wronged them and we know in our hearts that we didn’t and we do out best to be cautious around them. We word our conversations strategically not to offend that individual. Wanting desperately to keep things on good terms. Purposely praying the actually hear what you are saying and not what they chose to hear.
You try. In the midst of trying. You realize boundaries have been broken. Trust has gone completely out of the window. And insecurities have superseded the facts of the situation. (I would say truth but my truth may not actually be the same as someone else’s.) And the facts of the situation have been buried under past hurts that have yet to be dealt with. And now we have to be mindful of what we say and how we say what we say to guarantee that others are not offended.
We tip toe. We step cautiously. We diminish our character. We get caught in our thoughts and change our demeanor, all to protect the individual who doesn’t even have out best interest in mind. We tip toe. Praying not to be misinterpreted, praying to be understood. Distracted from the fact that although we handled things in the right manner, someone was bound to be offended.
And you know what its okay.
Now that you recognize that tip toeing around individuals is not healthy for your well-being or your sanity, Stop it! If you know in the depths of your soul that you have handled things appropriately, keep it pushin’. Do not allow yourself to get caught up in what could possible turn into a journey pf people pleasing. Have a conversation is the need arises, but do not develop the habit of losing yourself by tip toeing habitually.
Although the nephew runs on his tip toes, each time he is redirected, he is reminded that he has the ability to walk with both feet flat on the floor. Just like him, we are capable of learning and maintaining new healthy habits that will benefit us in the long run. Tip toeing around others should never be an option. Standing up for yourself, respectfully, showing yourself self-love and keeping boundaries are will benefit you in the long wrong.
So, lets not tip toe around people, or our problems. Avoidance is never the answer.